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Do You Suffer From Stage Fright And The Fear Of Public Speaking?

Faye B. Roberts wrote:


In a recent Gallup poll shows that 40% of adults have stage fright and the fear of public speaking. Stage fright and fear of public speaking can cripple your career.

It’s almost impossible to be successful in any business without having to speak to a large group of people at some point in time. This can be an excruciating experience if you suffer from fear of public speaking.

Performance anxiety or stage fright is a crippling fear that is a public speakers’ equivalent to writers’ block. No matter how much preparation time or how well you know your material, the stress of recalling the next line of your speech and the jitters caused by being on stage can be a powerful combination. Add the fact that one single mistake can cause inestimable damage to your presentation and you have a recipe for debilitating stage fright.

Almost every speaker has suffered from stage fright at some point in their career. Fear of public speaking shows itself in many situations and through all walks of life.

It ranges from mere nervousness if you have to speak to more than a couple of people at work or to full blown panic attacks at the thought of speaking in any public situation.

If you are the person who dreads the moment in a meeting when someone turns to you and says “what do you think?”, or you worry that soon it will be your turn to introduce yourself, or even if you virtually pass out at the thought of any public speaking, you CAN be helped. There are some very basic strategies that will help you overcome your stage fright and your fear of public speaking.

Put yourself in control of everything within your sphere of influence. Check out your physical space and insure any hand-outs and presentation materials are

available for distribution. If you are going to be using an overhead or power point system make sure they work (and are plugged in). Avoid being rushed or distracted on the day of your presentation.

Practice your relaxation skills before you go up to the podium. Take an imaginary journey through your speech from beginning to end, soothing your mind during the quiet time before your entry. Use deep breathing to calm your body and your mind.

The difference between someone suffering from stage fright and fear of public speaking with someone who feels calm and capable is that the former frets about it in advance and the latter doesn’t. So don’t fret, practice your relaxation skills and stay calm.

You may be surprised at how much you enjoy it.



Why Fear Public Speaking

Barbara Hofmeister wrote:


According to ‘The Book of Lists’, the fear of public speaking ranks number one in the minds of the majority of people. Far above the fear of death and disease, comes the fear of standing in front of a crowd.

Public speaking is a common source of stress. Many of us would like to avoid this problem entirely, but that is nearly impossible. Whatever our work eventually we will need to speak in public to get certain tasks accomplished. And if we want to be leaders or achieve anything meaningful in our lives, we will often have to speak to groups, large and small, to become successful.

But instead of appropriate levels of adrenalin and excitement to optimize our performance, we get a fear response like we are being attacked by a wild animal.

Everything in our body and mind screams “run away”! But we can’t, we have to ignore our ‘fight or flight’ response and stay put. And what’s more, we are supposed to sound eloquent and informed at the same time. Not an easy task.

The reason most people get anxious when required to speak to a group is that they are afraid of looking foolish or stupid in front of others. The fear that their lack of speaking skills might lower the opinion others have of them becomes overwhelming.

The fear of public speaking often results from painful experiences during school days when we failed in class and were teased by the other children. Being humiliated can destroy a person’s ego and confidence for a long time and a short experience followed by humiliation can result in this life long fear of public speaking.

The brain links the negative feelings associated with that experience to other similar experiences. Attaching emotions to situations is one of the primary ways that humans learn. But sometimes we get the wiring wrong. Many people suffering from fear of public speaking believe they are alone in feeling so frightened, when in fact this fear is shared by millions even though nobody likes to talk about it.

If you can adopt the following sentence: “I stopped worrying about what people would think about me, when I realized how seldom people think about anyone but themselves” you have got it made.

There is no real trick to public speaking, there is only confidence. And confidence is gained by practice and experience. Of course good preparation and relaxation techniques before giving a speech help but practice will make you a master.

To gain experience outside those scary live performances in front of your peers, joining a local Toastmasters Club is a great idea. Or get yourself a Public Speaking or Speech Coach. In both cases you will get the chance to practice and hone your skills in a friendly environment. And you will get valuable feedback.

Overcoming fear by actively and consciously facing it in the least painful way has proven to be extremely effective - also in this all encompassing fear of public speaking. So go out and speak! Finding your voice in public will be the most freeing experience you can imagine.



Public Speaking - Masters of the Pause Part I

J. Douglas Jefferys wrote:


It’s common to believe, when you listen to great speakers at work, that certain people are simply born with the talent to speak well, and therefore no amount of training or practicing is going to transform you into a great speaker, no matter how hard you try. And while it’s true that both John Kennedy and Bill Clinton have what most people don’t - charisma - their ability to speak as they do was not part of what they were born with.

Bill Clinton was not always a great speaker. He was guilty of several bad practices, one being common to the political class: Clinton actually thought people wanted to hear elected officials go on at the mouth for one, two, or even three hours. The truth is you rarely hear someone say, “That was a great presentation - I only wished he would have droned on for another hour or so”. And FDR is famous for his advice to public speakers: Be sincere; be brief; be seated!

Brevity is the soul of wit, but it’s also the heart of a great talk. President Ronald Reagan, the person for whom the name “The Great Communicator” was coined, had a strict limit of 45 minutes, but preferred to stay under 25 whenever possible.

Another annoying practice of Clinton’s was the repeated use of his forefinger to point at the audience when he spoke. People tend to feel uncomfortable when pointed at, and we know how important it is for audience members to feel comfortable. His handlers never could break him of the general motion, but they were able to train him to crank that finger back into his hand and then lock it down with his thumb.

You can probably easily picture Bill Clinton with his fist moving up and down, thumb pointed outward as it held a firm grip on his finger, declaring to the assembled press, “I did not have relations with that woman, that Monica Lewinsky…”

Finally, like most people, and by far the majority of politicians, he would rarely stop the word flow once he started. As charming and charismatic as he was with individuals, when speaking in public, he did not understand the essence of the pause. But his handlers knew the respect he had for his “mentor”, and so they sat him down and had him watch videotapes of JFK over and over again until he got it.

A New Style

Clinton’s speaking style is really a modernized version of Kennedy’s. But JFK was one of the most influential speakers of the 2oth century, in that he really introduced the “humanistic” style of public speaking. Prior to Kennedy’s showing the world the power of an authoritarian’s speaking to his “subjects” on equal terms, we had the “oratory” style, best exemplified by Winston Churchill.

Churchill spoke to us from on high - Kennedy brought speech down to the level of the common man, and people loved him for it.

We are not suggesting that every time you give a speech or deliver a presentation you should speak as if you were the president of your country. We use these two men as examples because they learned just how powerful the pause can be when needing to persuade others to see things as you do. The reality is that few people will ever use as many pauses when they present as these and other Masters of The Skills, but then most people don’t average 10,000 or so people in their audiences.

But we want you, from this point forward, to be constantly hearing these cadences in your head when you speak, with the understanding that you’ll be gaining more and more message uptake the more you strive to hit their stride. Right now, we would wager that you probably average no less than 25 words between pauses, and that many of you don’t pause at all. If you want to be a speaker who can truly lay claim to having The Skills, you must work to incorporate the pause at least at the end of every thought.